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who you truly are, is all you'll ever need
Christine McInnes MBACP (reg)




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Sep 22, 20242 min read
Love or Limerence?
How can you know if you are in love, or if you are experiencing limerence? Often the rush of adrenalin, excitement and arousal you will...
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christinefmcinnes
Sep 13, 20241 min read
Limerent Burnout
There is an extraordinary level of mental fortitude needed to fuel limerence. It is an obsession that knows no release when at its most...
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christinefmcinnes
Aug 17, 20242 min read
Limerence and Euphoric Recall
Newcomers to AA are introduced to the concept of euphoric recall early in their recovery. There is nothing more dangerous to early...
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christinefmcinnes
Aug 6, 20242 min read
Limerent Bargaining and Abandonment
In Kubler Ross's model of the five stages of grief, she describes bargaining as an attempt to temporarily ward off the inevitable...
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christinefmcinnes
Aug 2, 20242 min read
Limerence and the Quality of Gaze
No-one else But you, For your eyes The first thing The only thing The everything That makes us two. Why is it so hard to forget the...
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christinefmcinnes
Jul 30, 20242 min read
How to be Vulnerable
For I am weak here Broken hearted And too fragile To allow another in. This is the ringed place The roped off room Where the door is...
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christinefmcinnes
Jul 28, 20241 min read
Creativity and the Dream Fox
Where go you Little rose fox Ballet slipper feet Soft in the pad pad of the night And your quiet yawn That opens all the doors Flips...
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christinefmcinnes
Jul 27, 20242 min read
Reckoning with Shadow
I watched my shadow Light and thin. She watched me back, Waiting for her chance. Will she pour her slender legs Into the space that...
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christinefmcinnes
Jul 26, 20242 min read
Healing the Loss of Attuned Gaze
If we have not been looked at with enough attunement, how do we heal this? How do we soothe a deep ache for attention and a longing for...
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christinefmcinnes
Jul 25, 20242 min read
Limerence and Narcotisation
Limerence is a life stealer, a thief of opportunity and expansion. It offers a soporific hit of sexual and romantic intensity while...
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christinefmcinnes
Jul 24, 20241 min read
Limerent Rage
Infatuation, obsession and intense attraction does not always mean that a limerent object will be held in high regard. Often the limerent...
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christinefmcinnes
Jul 23, 20241 min read
Twinning in the Insecure Attachment Dance.
If we are eternally looking for the eyes of our mother through the eyes of each new partner, we may twin in order to capture attention. A...
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christinefmcinnes
Jul 22, 20242 min read
The Tea Ceremony and Sexual Intrigue.
In limerence recovery it is important to assess exactly how you are attempting to seduce your limerent object. One aspect of sexual...
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christinefmcinnes
Jul 22, 20242 min read
The Dismissive Avoidant and Contempt.
Contempt can become an ever present emotion for the dismissive avoidant. An avoidant may find themselves swimming in the emotional...
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